top Lying. Start Leading.
Most people don’t have a leadership problem.
They have a problem with truth.
“Stop lying and start leading.”
This powerful mantra comes from Garrett White, successful businessman, coach, and entrepreneur.
His programs are built for men, but the truth hits all of us—especially high-performing women.
We fall into the same trap:
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Lying to ourselves about money
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Lying about how well things are going
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Lying about our stress, our burnout, our habits, our relationships
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Lying to others because it’s easier than facing what’s really going on
It’s easier to smile, nod, and keep the machine running.
On the surface, everything looks fine.
Behind the scenes, life is barely holding on by a thread.
I know, because I’ve been there.
Once I took a hard honest look at my life, revealed the lies, and began to live with integrity, everything changed.
Every day I to choose to lead myself first, and then lead others.
- My relationships were stronger.
- My business began to thrive.
- Even my health improved.
Napoleon Hill once said we spend our lives trying to outwit the devil.
That devil is often our own voice—the internal narrative that justifies shortcuts, hides pain, avoids conflict, and numbs us.
This is a challenge that is you versus you.
If you are honest, you don't need better strategy— you need more integrity.
The kind of integrity that says: I’m going to stop hiding. I’m going to lead my life with truth.
Here are three ways to stop lying, and start leading.
1. Have an honest conversation with yourself.
Not a sugar-coated, surface-level audit. A real one.
Where are you not telling the truth?
Where are you pretending everything’s fine, when it’s not?
Where are you slipping, hiding, avoiding?
You don’t need to fix it yet. You need to see it.
Grab a notebook. Start writing. Feel the emotion.
Then forgive yourself and move forward.
2. Accept that no one is perfect.
No one is perfect.
We all fall short.
What matters is not your flaw—but your willingness to face it.
This creates real leadership.
Less judgment. Less shame. More truth.
This is a shift that will fundamentally change you forever.
3. Lead yourself first—then lead others.
You don’t need a title to be a leader. But you do need to lead yourself first.
Your team, your clients, your family—they don’t need you to be perfect.
They need you to be real, to lead with integrity.
What is integrity?
It’s the quality of being honest, consistent, and morally upright—even when no one is watching.
Here’s a simple breakdown:
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Honesty – You tell the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient
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Consistency – Your actions match your words. You don’t act one way in public and another in private
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Moral soundness – You hold to your principles, values, or faith—especially under pressure
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Accountability – You own your mistakes and don’t shift blame
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Trustworthiness – Others can rely on you to do the right thing, even when it’s hard
Examples of integrity in real life:
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Telling a client the truth about a deal—even if it might cost you the sale
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Admitting you made a mistake before someone finds out
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Choosing not to gossip, even if everyone else is
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Having a critical conversation with a person who needs your leadership.
In essence, integrity is doing the right thing—especially when it costs you something.
It’s the core of leadership, trust, and long-term influence.
When you lead with integrity:
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You build unshakable trust
People trust leaders who consistently do what’s right, even when it’s unpopular. That trust becomes your greatest asset.
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Your decisions become clearer
When your values guide you, decision-making becomes easier and more confident.
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You attract the right people
Integrity draws in aligned clients, partners, relationships, and team members—and repels those who knowingly or unknowingly struggle to lead themselves.
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You sleep better at night
There’s peace in knowing you didn’t compromise your integrity.
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You become resilient
Even in failure, you retain your dignity and credibility. That can’t be taken from you.
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Your influence multiplies
People follow character, authenticity and honesty. Over time, integrity builds trust.
Integrity isn’t about perfection. It’s about facing your inner demons every single day.
It is your ability to lead with integrity that allows you to create a better life.
A life with more peace, influence, and alignment.
As you begin to apply these principles, the difference will be noticeable.
If this message spoke to you, don't ignore it.
Text me directly at 619-630-9618 and let me know what resonated with you.
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